Metaphysics teaches that relationships exist so that we learn self-love, communication, new skills and boundaries. Love relationships exist to deepen our capacity to love ourselves and others. By learning to meet our own needs, we experience more happiness and joy.

Students often ask for methods for creating a relationship or working with a difficult relationship. The first step is to realize that you are responsible for your happiness, not the other person. It’s also important to realize that the other person usually reflects some of your best qualities and energy and the potential to push the “buttons” of your patterns.

Here is a simple exercise that works for creating a partner and/or increasing harmony in a relationship or marriage.

1) Begin by seeing yourself 3-6 months in the future. Make it a beautiful day in a wonderful place. Add the outline of a person who loves you. Fill the outline with a color (pink light is love.)

2) Imagine that s/he radiates the qualities of love that you would like to receive. Feel the joy of a wonderful, sexual fulfilling relationship. Feel this energy physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

3) What would you like to have this person do for you that would increase your happiness? Imagine that it is happening…all of the small and large qualities and gestures. How would you feel?

4) Radiate your love toward this person. Feel his/her love radiate toward you.

Practice this exercise several times daily. Be sure not to identify the person as your spouse, lover or potential lover. Simply hold the thought that you are worthy and deserving of a great love.

When we desire that another person fulfills our needs, s/he may become overwhelmed by pressure, expectation or our own neediness. It is far better to fulfill our own needs through gentle visualization. When we feel fulfilled, then we draw the nature of this energy toward us.

(By practicing the manifestation exercise (see store), you can more fully develop your visualization.)