The glyph or symbol for the Age of Aquarius is the water bearer. The water-bearer is a man pouring water from a container into the air. The container is held above his head, indicating that the water comes from a celestial, rather than earthly source. The round open ended container represents 360 degrees, the measure of the circle. In metaphysics, the circle represents unity or higher consciousness.

Higher consciousness is found in the field. In alchemy, water represents the higher emotion of love, the love that results from a connection with the divine. The highest emanation of emotion (water) is love.

The present structure of the world is falling apart. There is no taping it together, glue or adhesive that is ever going to bring it back as it was. We, the light workers, are faced with creating a new reality that fulfills the paradigm of love.

Each day, the Universe is emitting this message, “Create with love.” And we are only beginning to understand what it means. Each of us, who have remained devoted to our lessons and inner work, have already found that the Universe will support us, regardless of what is happening in the world. We are seeing that miracles are real and come to our doorstep on a regular basis, if we remember to open the door and receive them.

The former structure was based on imbalanced masculine energies, and it became focused on power alone. It epitomized violence, competition, greed and lust. Power, alone or imbalanced, will never work, as it is a separating force that reinforces the selfish nature of the ego. Power tempered by love is wisdom. Both the masculine ray (power) and feminine ray (love) are anchored at this time which opens the doors to vast opportunity.

As we awaken by accepting more light into our lives through meditation and devotion, it is important that power is accompanied by love so that our quest leads to the wisdom of enlightenment.

Love is not simply giving everything away or a blind generosity; it is a balanced action of rightfully giving or not giving with awareness. (For example, a loving parent does not reward a child for poor behavior. The love stays but the reward is given for right behavior.) The form of the next societal creation rests with us, and it is our mission – if we accept it – to create anew under the auspices of love.

The rules are yet to be discovered, but there is a plumb-line, a centering edge, or ruler that can be applied. This is the heart, the heart chakra, the center of our beings that can be used to measure and weigh our actions for this is the center of our being, the part of the self that is aligned with love. When we feel with our hearts, we can discern if our thoughts and emotions stem from the ego or the true self. A thought or feeling from the heart chakra leads to the True Self, and, its inner awakening.

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Our thoughts affect the world far more than our awareness allows our belief. The objects of our focus, particularly in group focus, create much of the present reality of the outer world.

Following the conference for Global Warming in Copenhagen, we experienced severely cold weather, which was the one of predictions and a topic of subject matter. The weather trend is moderating, as it moves back into a “normal” pattern.

(The agenda is very simple. Scientific data is paired with photographs or pictures that are flashed on the screen on millions of televisions until we hold and project the desired hologram into reality.)

It’s clear that the media is skilled in focusing our attention on outrage, violence and upset. If we are distracted from our inner being, then it is not possible to visualize and create a world that based on the higher frequencies of love, harmony and balance.

It’s easy to create enemies, judgments, prejudice and hate. It’s more difficult to create a group of people who see through the agenda of darkness and chaos.

It’s been said that I am a visionary (I will leave that to you), but I perceive that the world appears to be in an uproar. When I look closely, there is so much pain and suffering.

Nevertheless, I believe that it is possible to live in a world that reflects the beauty of our light.

It will take far more than my individual vision and light to see it differently and to co-create a beautiful world. Each of us can participate by seeing the world from a new or different perspective.

Co-creation or manifestation is the art of creating the soul’s vision in the world. We can all begin by understanding that the distressing aspects of life can be altered through changing our vision and perception.

We can focus on the underlying beauty in the world. It is also possible to recognize the goodness in a thousand small things. When contemplating the future, it is best to visualize it as it could be in its highest and finest form.

We can focus on our own inner light and see it in the world, whether it is visible or not. Miracles are not visible until solidified in physical form, and miracles begin to happen long before they are visible to the human eye.

Thank you for being the miracle that you are.

Keep in mind that all three roles in drama are victim roles. The victim is the person who is hurt; the perpetrator tries to hurt the other people who are involved; and the hero tries to save the situation by sacrificing all of his/her energy.

Usually, the basis of all three roles begins in childhood. The role of the perpetrator begins when the child or person feels so hurt that s/he attacks for survival. The underlying feelings are those of insecurity, lack of faith and love in self, and fear. The goal of the perpetrator is to hurt or attack others before s/he can be hurt (again), and we tend to perceive this action as aggression.

A perpetrator teaches a great deal about one’s personal vulnerability. I learned from my ex-husband, who is a martial artist, that a person can only be attacked in an area of unprotected vulnerability. For example, Achilles could not be defeated unless attacked at the back of the heel. You cannot be attacked if you are not vulnerable. This is an excellent opportunity to see how you feel vulnerable. What is this person attacking about you? Is it true? Is it based on old patterns of insecurity from childhood or adolescence?

Perpetrators are adept at attacking other people to hide their own vulnerability. If you are on the defensive, then the perpetrator wins. (They actually win your energy.) A perpetrator must attack a place of weakness, or the other person will not react to the attack. What will happen if the attack doesn’t hurt you? Nothing will happen.

The Universe is waiting for you to react differently. In a conversation, you can ask, “Is this your opinion or are you stating this as a truth? Is there a reason for your viewpoint? Why do you feel this way?” Perpetrators don’t respond well to questioning because they plan a surprise attack to take the chessboard. They rarely know the reason for their thoughts because they are in a knee-jerk reaction about protecting themselves.

You can also notice your own body during these encounters. If you can relax the parts of your body that tense during these encounters, then the situation will change. This is because your body is part of your field. If you change your physical reaction, then you have changed your reaction into a response.

In closing, if there is a perpetrator in your life, then you are either the victim or the hero. When you decide not to play this role, the perpetrator will find another person to persecute!

Observation is the key when changing any pattern because they are ALL based on drama. Notice which of the roles that you play and the actions/reactions that you always have because these may be the clues to the solution. You may have always reacted to this type of attack.

Notice if you placate, argue with or soothe the perpetrator. Keep a list on your desk and listen to your tone of voice. Change your responses or reactions. (It is also useful to record phone calls from perpetrators as they usually don’t remember what they said since the point of the call was to argue or intimidate.)

You can also validate any relevant points that the perpetrator makes. This can be helpful because the perpetrator feels out of control and employing aggressive behavior to regain control. By validating the other person’s point of view, you are changing the flow of conversation and energy.

Until we begin to awaken, we use all of your energy to maintain the roles of drama. Not only do we use all of our energy, we borrow from others as much as possible.

Mastering our emotions is the key to relationships. It is a most difficult, yet rewarding task. This testing of emotion continues until we learn to have the correct mental images and emotions. Otherwise, we feel that we experience the same trials in life repeatedly

Staying in a place of emotional calm and a state of love is an act of mastery. It cannot be learned in a day, week or month, but through a series of moments of self-observation over a long period of time. Interestingly, this task is accomplished through love of the unhappy parts in our dramas.

As we begin to awaken, we begin to realize that having energy is everything. It takes a tremendous amount of positive energy to awaken and to free our selves from the negativity of roles of drama. Every character in our drama is borrowing energy from us.

Alchemy refers to this as transmutation, lifting a base metal (a dark emotion, feeling or thought form) to a higher level. By imagining things positively, we begin the process. By centering in our higher self, we receive the wisdom of “how” to transmute it.

Each time we awaken briefly through accumulation of positive energy, we not only free ourselves, but all of the characters who long to awaken.

The Importance of the Perpetrator State

The perpetrator is the most de-energizing position in the triangle of drama. In this state, we not only experience our deepest pain, through another’s action, we also experience his or her pain, which is different. His/her pain aligns with our pain, causing our deepest beliefs and most suppressed pain to rise to the surface. The challenge is to love not only our pain but the other person’s pain as well.

Love is the transformative elixir. Love, only love, is the impetus that causes us to bear our own pain and another person’s pain to reach the new level of consciousness. This is called enlightenment. It is the reason that the perpetrator position is the most valuable of all of the positions and why we dislike it the most.

None of us likes the perpetrator – but the perpetrator gives us valuable information about our expectations and HOW they come into being, as well as HOW we lose energy in relationships. Ask yourself the following as you read about this part of drama:

· How is the perpetrator teaching you about yourself? What don’t you want to see or change about yourself?

· How is the perpetrator acting out your subconscious patterns? What does the perpetrator always do to you? How do you experience hurt in a relationship?

· How is subconscious pattern reflected in the perpetrator’s behavior?

· How do you lack boundaries? How do you (as acted out by the perpetrator) sabotage your life?

Identifying the Perpetrator State

The triangle of the states of drama – Victim, Perpetrator, and Hero – begins with the Victim state. The Perpetrator is the person or event that brings up our victim patterns. However, the perpetrator has two faces – that of the other, and the self – in this drama. For even as s/he responds to our vulnerability by causing us hurt, s/he does so because of an inability to feel loved in a way that “locks into” our patterns of hurt and anger.

When viewed energetically, a perpetrator is simply responding to our personal patterns. Since our “hot buttons” are energetic connections to our patterns, every significant character in our lives has the capacity to “punch our buttons,” thereby precipitating our going into a victim state. Because we protect or hide core beliefs about ourselves within behavior patterns, our vulnerability could be described as areas in which we lack the energy to put forth positive images and emotions around core beliefs.

The cycle begins when a person does or says something that we experience as painful. At this point, we register that someone is hurting us, and we tend to react by directing blame, anger or vengeful thoughts toward him or her in an unconscious effort to balance our pain. Our reactions are actually attempts to recover lost energy, since we lose energy to the Perpetrator when we are in the Victim state.

Despite the fact that our first reaction to a perceived assault is to either defend or protect an area of vulnerability, in doing so, we often end up becoming either the Perpetrator, more of a Victim or the Hero.

For example, in a Victim State, we focus on how the perpetrator “hurt” or wounded us. If we react by becoming more of a Hero, we focus on “how” we can become nice enough to change the other person. There can be no heartfelt discussion of boundaries in the irrational Victim state, and the Hero state is so enabling that boundaries are forgotten.

If we react to hurt (which we believe s/he inflicted) by becoming the Perpetrator, we take action by sending the energy back toward the perceived perpetrator. When we send negative energy to the perpetrator, we send their energy back, which temporarily alleviates our pain. We have literally sent away our energy toward someone else – unfortunately, it returns with even more force.

Universal Law dictates that any energy, positive or negative, that we send toward others returns with three times the initial energy of the thought, feeling or action. The closer we come to a true state of being, the more quickly the energy returns. So if we decide to hurt someone because of our pain, we are only creating more pain for ourselves.

Some of the thought forms of the Perpetrator are similar to those of the victim and hero. The importance of these states is “how” we create them. Notice HOW the same situations, words, and feelings come up with the perpetrator state.

Blame and anger are often emotional indicators of experiencing the perpetrator state. Common thought forms include:

· Why is this person doing this to me? · Why does this always happen to me? · How could s/he do this to me? · S/he never (or always) does this or that for me. · I will make her/him sorry. · I want to tell her/him how angry I feel. · This is exactly the way I felt when I was a child.

ACTIONS that follow feelings and thoughts of a perpetrator state are:

· Telling other people how much this person hurt you. · Not listening when the other person tries to talk. · Blaming the other person for how you feel. · Thinking about how you will hurt the other person.

Value of the Perpetrator State

The Universe simply uses the perpetrator in your life as an indication of the patterns that exist within you. A belief system is always under the pattern. The perpetrator role, whether we are experiencing it or becoming it, is the way that we experience anger and act it out. It represents our personal method of losing energy in life. The anger is not truly directed toward the other person, but toward our selves for creating an unhappy reality stemming from our patterns

The lesson is to discover the belief and change it. Remember the rule: when we change, others must change or leave our lives.

Changing Perpetrator Behavior

*Recognize that most human beings are addicted to negative states of being. We get a great deal of attention from them.

*Recognize that you choose to become angry, hurt or to blame. Learn to state how you feel without judgment, anger or expectation.

*Understand the anger, hurt or blame is suppressed feelings that are a reflection of your reality. They are trying to show you how you create your reality.

* Choose to collect energy (through meditation, exercise and positive emotion). Don’t dispel it through anger.

*Learn to express your boundaries or feelings in a non-confrontational way. It is very rarely so much about what the other person “says” as what is imparted emotionally and energetically.

*Anger, blame and hurt often keep us from doing what we really want to do. When you are free (temporarily) from any of these states, ask what it is that they are blocking.

*Ask what you are not seeing about the situation, and how it could come from you.

*Don’t tell anyone else about your negative feelings unless they can remind you that you are creating the state.

*Understand that these feelings keep you from intimacy with yourself, other human beings and God.

Results of Self-Observation

To understand how we make ourselves unhappy, try to observe the following: consistent actions of the perpetrator or what s/he always says or does; consistent feelings within yourself when “attacked” by a perpetrator; your feelings of blame, anger and resentment as well as when they occur; and finally, when and what cause you to move into the perpetrator role? Try to find the first time that you ever experienced these types of feelings.

As we begin to observe the perpetrator state, anger and blame lessen. We gain understanding of how we create (exactly) what we don’t want. We understand that we have a choice. We can find the pain underlying the anger and blame. We can respond or react. We can become more truthful and state our feelings without blaming others. We learn by speaking our truth and asking for what we want; this creates a new, positive reality.

Metaphysics teaches that relationships exist so that we learn self-love, communication, new skills and boundaries. Love relationships exist to deepen our capacity to love ourselves and others. By learning to meet our own needs, we experience more happiness and joy.

Students often ask for methods for creating a relationship or working with a difficult relationship. The first step is to realize that you are responsible for your happiness, not the other person. It’s also important to realize that the other person usually reflects some of your best qualities and energy and the potential to push the “buttons” of your patterns.

Here is a simple exercise that works for creating a partner and/or increasing harmony in a relationship or marriage.

1) Begin by seeing yourself 3-6 months in the future. Make it a beautiful day in a wonderful place. Add the outline of a person who loves you. Fill the outline with a color (pink light is love.)

2) Imagine that s/he radiates the qualities of love that you would like to receive. Feel the joy of a wonderful, sexual fulfilling relationship. Feel this energy physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

3) What would you like to have this person do for you that would increase your happiness? Imagine that it is happening…all of the small and large qualities and gestures. How would you feel?

4) Radiate your love toward this person. Feel his/her love radiate toward you.

Practice this exercise several times daily. Be sure not to identify the person as your spouse, lover or potential lover. Simply hold the thought that you are worthy and deserving of a great love.

When we desire that another person fulfills our needs, s/he may become overwhelmed by pressure, expectation or our own neediness. It is far better to fulfill our own needs through gentle visualization. When we feel fulfilled, then we draw the nature of this energy toward us.

(By practicing the manifestation exercise (see store), you can more fully develop your visualization.)

Understanding drama can be powerful, and each of the three roles we assume in creating drama has a significant lesson about love. Every time we descend into drama, there is an opportunity to ascend to a place of higher love. We can clearly see the current role of drama and our reactions if we maintain awareness.

The Victim teaches us to give attention to ourselves instead of expecting it from others. The Perpetrator teaches us about our vulnerability and beliefs, about our inner anger and blame. The Hero teaches us not to discard the desires of our true self for the good of others, but to give from our hearts when we are moved by the Universe to do so.

We all experience each of these roles in similar, yet different ways. The three positions of drama offer us the opportunity to recognize our pain, patterns and beliefs. When we see ourselves more clearly, we have the opportunity to change.

Recognizing drama does not mean that it ends. It does mean that each time you experience it you will have more insights and that you will come closer to finding your underlying beliefs. Each dramatic episode shortens as you become more aware of your patterns and beliefs, and the time spent in “Being” lengthens.

Drama offers the chance to move more deeply into love or to move away from it. You can dance into a place of inner being or into the corner of your own darkness. This dance – if you choose greater love and forgiveness—leads into a higher paradigm of Being.

IDENTIFYING THE HERO STATE

Sacrificing heart felt desires for the good of others is the Hero’s theme. It begins when we encounter a difficulty in life. It may also be that we feel that the other person does not want to help her/himself. In other words, we usually have someone’s good at “ego” or heart when we become the hero.

When viewed energetically, we are giving away our energy to “fix” a victim or perpetrator. Usually the other person will improve briefly as a result of our energy give-away, but the situation will not change because of our intent – to give away our energy to appear needed. We may blame, like the perpetrator, for our sacrifice. Nevertheless, we move back into the Hero position — to receive acclaim and approval for aiding an undeserving person or difficult situation!

This occurs because the hero “loves” another person’s idealized image too much. Character flaws are overlooked because we believe that if we “love” the other person enough that s/he will change. We sublimate development of our gifts because we are lacking in love of self

Feeling superior and self-righteous is part of this drama. It is balanced by exhaustion, and feeling overwhelmed and burdened because we sacrifice time, energy and effort to correct our perception of a problem.

Ultimately, we feel that we are giving “something” that we do not want to give. A Hero state arises from thinking that we can make things “right” if we only try enough or give enough of ourselves away. Common thoughts, emotions and actions include:

*Overworking (If I work more, then everything will change)

*Not having time for rest, enjoyment or pleasure

*Exercising too much or not having time to exercise

*Feeling that you have more to do than you can ever accomplish

*Feeling exhausted or tense

*Feeling if the other person changed, then your life would be fine

*Making another person’s goals and life more important than your own

*Enabling other people and believing that if they changed, everything would work

VALUE OF THE HERO STATE

The value of the Hero state lies in understanding that whatever is sacrificed is of utmost importance to us. We would not be “sacrificing” it, if it were not important. We use the other person to sacrifice what we most desire, the part of our selves that most longs for expression.

The hero uses the other person exhaustively to accomplish his/her means. This means s/he is NOT listening to what his/her soul is prompting. The other person also becomes the hero’s measure of his/her superiority; the instrument of blame (look what I have given up for you), and his/her element of torture.

Enabling is a key word in the Hero position. By enabling the other person, the hero holds his/her position. Enabling another person is not as difficult as overcoming the limitations of the ego and pursuing our gifts. We “appear” to gain the most in the Hero’s position, not only culturally, but also through our justification of our actions.

Strong pictures of another person’s lack of abilities, strengths and performance are fabricated in our minds. When these feelings are materialized, we may act for the other person or do all of their work. Often, we will belittle the other person for not meeting our standards. We may resent the “unfairness” of our relationship, even stating that other person gets to do whatever s/he wants.

Hidden under these words is a strong desire to control. Control disguises several fears: if we grow into our abilities, then the other person will not want us, or we will not want them; if we do not enable the other person, then they will not need us; and if we change we may have to leave behind the all familiar past. Our desire to play hero is often a desire to avoid abandonment, separation and loss. There is very little to lose, other than ourselves, by staying in the hero’s patterns.

Ultimately, it doesn’t matter how much we give away to others – no matter how much approval we might receive – until we decide to develop our gifts and find the path of our heart, we will continue to search for our answers in others.

CHANGING HERO BEHAVIOR:

*Understand that no one wants to hear about how much you sacrifice

*No one truly wants you to sacrifice yourself..; it is painful for the other person and for you

*Everyone would like you more if you did what you really wanted to do; JUST BE YOUR SELF

*Understand that you are not doing this to be kind, generous or loving. You are doing it so that you don’t have to move forward in your life

*Understand that you make everyone pay for what you do for them; they have to “feel” your resentment, blame and anger, and then, you feel sorry for yourself

*It is not healthy to overwork or do too much for everyone else. This is being a martyr

*Make a list of what you know that you should do for you and MOVE ON

*Whenever you think that you are giving something up to help someone, you are enabling them. You are not allowing them to suffer enough to make the necessary change themselves! Understand that the Hero position is about receiving acclaim, approval and praise from others so that you don’t have to develop yourself!

WHAT IS BLISS?

Mystics experience moments of fleeting bliss that eventually become days and hours. In this state, one feels a complete state of loving every particle of life and every person that one encounters. All of creation – every object and every person – seems composed of a material that can only be called “Oneness.”

This mystical state is enhanced by the presence of the loved one. The enhancement does not come from any desire or expectation, but only the joy of that person’s presence. Esoteric writings teach that sexual union and/or a pure love for another are two of the highest states of being.

I am often asked how I know if one person loves another. When I think of the two people, there is more energy. The energy feels warm and nurturing. The person’s field looks larger and his/her energy is increased.

When someone truly loves you, s/he will respond, more and more quickly, to any thoughts of love or kindness that you have of him or her. If, at any time, you affect a change by ending a role in drama playing, then the other person will immediately change his or her behavior in a positive way.

IDENTIFYING THE VICTIM STATE

It is important to learn the common reactions of each victim state. By learning the thought, feeling and reactive patterns, you can begin to observe the pattern. As you learn to observe the pattern, you can change your perpetual thoughts, feelings and beliefs that hold the pattern in place. When you learn to do this, your life will begin to change in many positive ways.

A Victim state arises from feeling “hurt.” It often feels as though the hurt inside is unbearable. Common thought forms include:

* Why is the other person doing this to me?

* My life would be fine if this (something in the relationship) changed.

* My happiness depends on this person’s actions, or, I would be happy if only s/he did this or that for me.

The truth is that if we all loved ourselves enough, then we would be loved in all ways, always.

*There are a few karmic exceptions. This explanation of drama is written as it applies to relationships in general.

* If she/he acted differently, then I could change my life and everything would be different.

Actions that follow feelings and thoughts of a Victim state include:

* Telling other people about the pain that you experience because of the other person or about what is wrong with the other person.

* Feeling so overwhelmed with pain that you must act or say something to change the situation.

*Thinking that there is nothing you can do to change the other person or the situation.

THE VALUE OF THE VICTIM STATE

Drama is the main source of conversation in most people’s lives, and in our society, we receive a great of attention for being in a Victim state. We all find people who ignite patterns within us, making us feel “badly.” However, the negative feelings we experience are a reflection our own inner, often suppressed, emotions that can either enable the position of the victim or give insight to free us from the patterns.

Expectations are sometimes created around our desire to have someone else dissolve our patterns. We also create expectations about how much attention and approval the other person can give us, and we love or don’t love the other person in relation to how they measure up in this regard.

Ultimately, it doesn’t matter how much approval, attention or love anyone gives us. Until we find these resources within our selves, we simply cannot have enough; we are like a cup that can never be filled.

If we decide that we will change or overcome emotional trauma, we can begin by deciding to take responsibility for the drama in our lives. It is much easier to make someone else wrong than it is to change our emotions, thoughts and actions, however, if we were to take total responsibility for ourselves, then we would say that we are creating the patterns. If we give ourselves attention in the right way, then we would have to develop greater discipline and move into the human “fear of change.”.

The Victim state is valuable because we can find a truth or place of higher being within it. We can USE this place to discover the patterns within our own psyches that cause us pain. The pain does not come from the actions of other people, but because of the patterns inside of us.

Changing Your Behavior:

* STOP THINKING THAT SOMEONE IS DOING SOMETHING TO YOU.

* Develop your talents in your free time so that they will benefit you and others.. This is giving proper attention to your self.

* Imagine what you would be if you didn’t react to the other person as you do.

* Understand that your happiness must come from inside of you. Work to find happiness and joy in your life; learn to change your focus.

Intimacy in a relationship is what we all desire. If we open ourselves to love, then what might be the result? If we are in a true state of being, then our potential as creators is wildly expanded; the world suddenly opens, becoming beautiful.

Intimacy is also the state that is most feared by all of us because it is a reflection of our soul’s relationship with the Universe. Only the dissolution of the ego can lead us into a state of wholeness, yet we fear the loss of our individuality or our personality. We are afraid of feeling another person as much as we feel ourselves, and we fear letting go and moving into a state of greater happiness.

We are so afraid of happiness that we verbalize negativity most about those people we love the most because this sabotages the relationship, moving it into drama. We also save the very worst parts of ourselves (that we would never share with anyone else) for our loved ones in the hope that this person can love what we do not love about ourselves.

We are most critical of the same people, the ones we love most, because we don’t love ourselves enough. We should love them a great deal because the loved ones are volunteering to be a mirror of ourselves. The truth is that if we all loved ourselves enough, then we would be loved in all ways, always.

Our beliefs, limitations and fears about love will be revealed in a relationship. One rule of Tibetan Dream Yoga states that we will never fall in love with anyone who does not punch our buttons. Otherwise, we miss a tremendous learning experience, seeing ourselves in the mirror of someone else. This magical mirror can bring us into a state of true being if we learn how to use it.

THE DRAMA

Loving another human being is often associated with self-abandonment, loss and pain or another word: Drama. Many of us find it difficult to even contemplate love without pondering painful relationships or our childhoods. With these memories or holograms, we subconsciously recreate the dramas of our past by thinking that the other person does these things to us, thus enabling both our selves and the other person to move into drama or a victim role. No one is doing anything to you*. You are creating your experience all by yourself. The other actors have simply been pulled by the holograms or movies that play perpetually in your subconscious and are colored by your thoughts and feelings. The movie plays constantly because you replay the same thoughts and pictures in your mind continually.

There are three victim roles: the Victim, the Perpetrator, and the Hero. All three roles must be in any drama. The Victim is the person who is hurt. The Perpetrator inflicts the harm, and the Hero must save all. Recognizing how you play the roles is quite simple. When you are the Victim, you will tell the story of an injustice or what someone did to you. (If you believe that someone hurt you, then this is a victim role.) When you move into the role of Perpetrator, you will justify a harmful action toward another from your own victim perspective. (If you are justifying what you did to someone else, this is a perpetrator role.) When you are the Hero, you will fix everything, regardless of cost to self. (When you are exhausted, but everyone else benefits, then you are the Hero.)
You can create change by telling yourself, I am creating this. You can change your feelings by acknowledging your own wounded nature that has created unhappiness. By sending love and gratitude to this part of your self, it can actually be healed. A happy reality can be created by learning to move away from blame and the ego’s need for approval. You can also spend 5 minutes each day visualizing the relationship of your dreams (see relationship exercise http://www.onetrueself.com/tools.html).

*There are a few karmic exceptions. This explanation of drama is written as it applies to relationships in general.